My wife is my best friend, so I’m lucky that way. We’ve been intimate since we were eighteen years old. Our bodies have known other lovers and we have been pretty open about that but not forensic. We’re now just in our fifties and we have had more than five years of sexual awakening. It has been AMAZING. It started before we met Sacha when my wife had a hysterectomy which freed her from some discomfort during sex, but Sacha was very good at providing the context and vocabulary of love and pleasure that we were missing. We were very sexual, but we were missing so much that was virtually right in front of us–ready to be accessed with little to no effort, and Sacha helped us unlock all of that potential. Effort…that is a good thing to talk about. Sometimes, prior to learning with Sacha, we would get out of sync…that is to say, she would ‘need’ more sex than I was ready to engage in and alternately I would ‘require’ more sex than she wanted at a given time. In those cases, love making might have been a labor…I would “do it for her” and she would “do it for me” and orgasms were mandatory or we both felt like we failed in the effort. Oh boy was that wrong and holding us back!! 

Sacha taught us so much but the most important takeaway was the simple knowledge that sex, love-making, whatever you call it, doesn’t have to be goal-oriented. Orgasms do not define success in sex…sure they’re wonderful and we want to have as many as we can, but there is a world of pleasure to be experienced without the physical nervous system response of ejaculation or female orgasm. 

Our days now, are filled with a deep appreciation for each other. We start (almost) every morning with kissing, caressing, touching, and many times we’ll make love. Sometimes we orgasm, but every single time we feel connected and loved. We feel the warmth of each other’s body, the quickening of each others heart and breath, and the softness of our energy flowing between us. This connection cannot be under-estimated. We have gone through some traumatic experiences since our time learning with Sacha, and this ability to connect, to honor the sacredness in each other and bring joy to one another (even in the absence of orgasm) has allowed us to thrive even in the face of pain and grief. 

Energy is another topic worth spending some time on. I am not very ‘woo-woo’ as Sacha would say and I wasn’t a student of tantra or energy when we started learning with Sacha, but believe me…energy flows through us and is very real. I had my first energetic orgasm after some training with Sacha and it blew my mind. The sensation was every bit as strong as the strongest physical orgasm I ever had, but I did not ejaculate and I remained ‘hard’ and continued to make love to my wife for a long and memorable time…I cannot stress enough…learn about this and buy into it. This is a life changing awakening. 

I hope this short summary of our experiences is helpful to you. We wish you luck and limitless love and pleasure.

My husband and I went dancing last night!
This morning we spent 2 hours in bed exploring! Kissing game, eye gazing, awakening energy through soft gentle touches, taking turns for 10 minutes each asking for what we wanted, using color (safe) words, laughing…
When it was my turn for my 10 minutes I asked him to explore my yoni in the way you were describing, with each part and different types of touch. I felt totally comfortable asking him to change types of touch, place of touch, etc. I think because it was what the exercise wI think because it was what the exercise was designed for. It was like it gave me permission to allow it!
We used lots of lube, too.
Then, with him sitting at my feet and me lying down, with my legs draped over his, I began to self pleasure. I wanted him to watch from this perspective, now that we had talked about the anatomy a bit and explored that together, and see if he could see changes in plumpness and color and just to enjoy. I don’t think I have EVER felt comfortable doing this while he is watching and today I felt TOTALLY comfortable! While I wasn’t able to orgasm, it was okay – I did in the tub last night. Sometimes 2 days in a row I have trouble. Anyway, it was the most relaxing and loving and intimate and enjoyable morning! Definitely a win!

It’s going well. We’re doing our microdosing (of pleasure), which has been feeling good. We had our first sex date earlier this week and it was actually way better than we both even imagined it could be. We set a time aside for an hour and we both stated what we wanted to try in order. We did a grounding meditation to start, some energy things, gratitude sharing, kissing exercise you recommended. 
We actually figured out a lot with that 5 minute each kissing exercise. We ended up both orgasming at the same time (with a condom on) which has never happened before with us. So cheers to that! Lol  

Sacha has an amazing gift for healing. I saw her after my divorce when I felt broken in every sense. Sacha listened carefully to my story and matched her therapies and lessons perfectly. I became far more in touch with my body, happier, and more confident. Not only did Sacha help me address my recent pain but she also helped me identify and bring to light other pains I had been carrying most of my life. I live apart from those pains now and am truly grateful. I highly recommend Sacha for anyone on a personal journey of rediscovery. I also highly recommend Sacha to any women who haven’t had sex education since middle school and are seeking a better understanding of how to bring pleasure into their lives.

It was such a pleasure to meet and work with you yesterday! Thank you so much for sending this wonderful material my way. I read through most everything and am so appreciative to receive and apply it in my daily life. As to how my experience was since our session yesterday – I was honestly blown away about how I could relate and reconnect with my body. I had such a fun and pleasurable time doing home play so far. I will order the product you recommended this week! I didn’t realize I could talk to myself in a different way and turn myself on so powerfully by just asking, listening and using energy and a few techniques (esp the pelvic floor exercise) to connect to my body! I feel hopeful and empowered about being able to connect with myself in the way I’m really wanting and not feeling so compartmentalized about my sexuality any longer. It will be a practice to keep prioritizing pleasure this week esp with work happening, however I am going to practice setting aside time for myself and put pleasure first much more often! I did start a separate sex and love journal (as suggested) and will record my progress and experiences there.

We have been making new efforts to connect, be present and make time for each other.
We had an amazing time on vacation. Lots of privacy (ripe for clothing optional) and fewer distractions than in real life… it was amazing!
We have been making time to be present together.  We have set time aside for together time and have even experimented with sobriety. 
Beyond the efforts to carve out connection time, we have also renewed our “yes, no, maybe” lists and leaned into exploring potential areas of sensual, intimate & erotic treasure. 
Open, honest, vulnerable dialogue is pretty hot  and in my opinion we have made some (successful) strides in making sure that is prioritized. 
We are both busy, with many exterior demands and responsibilities but I do think that (despite each having “everyone else comes first, and we go last” mentalities) we are making progress to re- prioritize our connection and our pleasure.